Communication
Communication & Conflict Deep Diagnostic
An in-depth, ~60-minute diagnostic of how you and your partner talk, fight and repair — built on Gottman's conflict research.
What this test measures
This 150-question assessment takes about 60 minutes and looks at 15 key areas:
- Active Listening
- Expressing Needs
- Emotional Validation
- Defensiveness
- Criticism vs Complaint
- Contempt & Respect
- Stonewalling & Withdrawal
- Demand-Withdraw Pattern
- Repair Attempts
- Timing & Pacing
- Nonverbal Attunement
- Assertiveness vs Aggression
- Compromise & Negotiation
- Forgiveness
- De-escalation
Related assessments
- Couple's Communication Compatibility Quiz — How well do you really communicate? This quiz identifies how clearly you both express needs, resolve issues, and listen — key for keeping your connection strong.
- Communication Compatibility Test — Explore your communication style and how it matches (or misfires) with your partner's. This quiz is key for improving connection, clarity, and understanding.
- Cosmic Connection Quiz — A playful, cosmic-themed snapshot of how aligned you feel with your partner — based on your own answers.
- Sexual Compatibility Test — Uncover how aligned your physical intimacy needs are. Explore preferences, passion, and bedroom dynamics in a respectful, fun format.
Frequently asked questions
- Is this test free?
- Your first test on Compatify is free with a free account, and you'll see your score, area sub-scores, and your result story straight away. A Compatify Premium membership unlocks the full breakdown, every other assessment, personalised growth steps, and reflection prompts.
- How long does it take?
- Most people finish in about 60 minutes. There are 150 questions and no right or wrong answers — just respond as honestly as you can.
- What does this test measure?
- It looks at Active Listening, Expressing Needs, Emotional Validation, Defensiveness, Criticism vs Complaint, Contempt & Respect, Stonewalling & Withdrawal, Demand-Withdraw Pattern, Repair Attempts, Timing & Pacing, Nonverbal Attunement, Assertiveness vs Aggression, Compromise & Negotiation, Forgiveness, and De-escalation. Your answers come together into one clear overall picture so you can see where you're strong and where there's room to grow.
- Is this test scientifically accurate?
- This test is science-informed and designed for honest self-reflection. Think of it as a tool for insight and better conversations, not a clinical or diagnostic test.
- Is my data private?
- Yes. Your answers stay private to your account and are never sold or shared. You can take this test on your own, and decide if and when you share anything with a partner.